K1 Activity 2 – Brainstorm Guidelines for Friendship


In this discussion, students brainstorm guidelines for creating supportive friendships. Eventually, these guidelines can become a class chart posted for easy reference. After all these great discussions, it is time to celebrate what we have discovered with a rousing sing-along with the IM4U music video and a discussion of friendship guidelines.


Students listen to the song and explore lyrics to brainstorm and develop guidelines for friendship.

Principle Overview

Throughout the 7 Principles we have seen how everything we do has a ripple effect on others. We are dependent on so many other people for so many things – the roads we drive on and the foods we eat, the schools we go to and the technology we use. The list is endless. When we see how connected we all really are, we can go from feelings of isolation to a sense of belonging and purpose, and we can appreciate and even celebrate our differences- in and out of the classroom. This principle is foundational to all of the IM4U songs and activities.


Goals and Objectives:

  • Summarize what it means to be a friend
  • Describe what IM4U means in one’s own words
  • Develop friendship guidelines
  • Demonstrate friendship guidelines in daily interactions in the classroom
  • Be sure to post the class-created Friendship Guidelines chart where they can serve as a reminder to students.
  • Continue to add to the Friendship Guidelines chart as discussions and situations arise.
  • Notice and verbalize to the students when they are actively applying Friendship Guidelines.
  • Use the Friendship Guidelines chart as a way to engage students in discussing friendship challenges as they may arise.
  • Have students create drawings to add to the Friendship Guidelines chart.
Listening is a vital skill for all students. It gives meaning to what a person has said and helps create a feeling of value and kindness in a diverse classroom. The I Heard You Say skill builder is a good way to develop listening skills and helps create a caring, collaborative learning community by showing others that what they say is important.

  • Student ideas about friendship can be diverse depending on their personal experiences. During the discussion, encourage students to use the The I Heard You Say skill builder to help make sure they understand a new perspective or idea about friendship.
  • As students share their ideas about the video, model the skill builder by saying “I heard you say….” as you repeat their ideas.
  • Ask students: How does listening to others help you have good friendships?
  • Make connections to the unit principle WE ALL ARE CONNECTED – friendship connects us. When we show kindness through treating one another with respect, we deepen connections and friendships we have with others.
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Activity Steps

  • Connector.

    Listen and watch the IM4U music video. Students may like to sing along and add hand motions for the repeating phrase “IM4U.” For “IM,” they can point to themselves. For “4,” they can show 4 fingers. And for “U,” they can point to others.

  • Connector.

    Invite students to help you define guidelines for friendship. Begin with a discussion using some of these question prompts:

    What is a friend?
    What are things a friend will say?
    How can you be a good friend?
    What do you do with friends?
    How do you help a friend feel happy?
    Can we have more than one friend?How do you know someone isn’t your friend?

  • Connector.

    Revisit the song to look for phrases about being a good friend to others to further the conversation, such as “tell the truth,” “I’ve got your back,” “sometimes disagree,” and so on.

  • Connector.

    Choose one of the phrases to discuss. How do these phrases fit in with the classroom community? How are they good guidelines for friendship?

  • Connector.

    After discussing the lyric phrases, you or the students can suggest a few additional phrases to continue the conversation. Here are some ideas:
    • Be yourself and let others be themselves.
    • Notice yourself, notice others.
    • Accept yourself, accept others.
    • Be respectful, honest, and listen.
    • Stick together.
    • Stand up for each other.
    • Even when the going gets tough, what matters is that we are there for each other.

  • Connector.

    Record students’ suggested guidelines on the board.

  • Connector.

    Have students illustrate a poster of “Our Friendship Guidelines” for the classroom.

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